And men don't? Making the first move is just that, making the first move. There is still tons of chasing on both sides before a relationship is built. All the games playing below your bullet point that people value what they work for is suspect. There doesn't need to be any precedent set about who is pursuing who, at different times in a real courtship either party will be pursuing or hesitating at one time or another, and a relationship built on set expectations of who is the "driving force" is inherently fragile.