Not sure how, if at all, that comment relates to my comment. Your experience was horrific and I marvel that you can rise above it to lead a relatively normal and healthy life, just shows how truly resilient people can be.

The choices in child rearing are not between being a monster abuser and being a cream puff or a helicopter...there are many other options. I was never abused, I'm pretty sure my parents would have had the same reaction as you describe had somebody tried to harm me. What I wrote about was a VERY different thing.