These thoughts and feelings were at the heart of the feminist movement in the late 60's and early 70's, and then somehow got lost. Hoping that you take the idea of resilience and run with it, as well as refusing to settle for boring sex. That will mean of course being bold in teaching your partner what sensual and satisfying sex really is, and of course dumping the dopes who are not teachable. Who knows, maybe you will find someone who already knows;)