Welcome to my world, the world of casual invisibility. That gaze goes both ways, though with different criteria determining relative visibility. One benefit is that you will know that people who chose to interact with you, who desire your company and friendship, do so because they recognize the person you are and not for other, superficial reasons. Another benefit is the time and money you save not routinely primping and costuming for the benefit of an other's gaze. I have no doubt that you, like I, can "clean up" pretty well when you chose to, but with fewer expectations about the change in treatment that doing so will get you. Now you can just do it for you...and for the genuine friends that stick by you and who will still notice.