What a load of rot, much like the rest of this mess. Has it occurred to you that many men (as opposed to "guys") have been in several relationships that ended for one reason or another and have learned to be observant and empathetic enough to understand you? Did you consider the possibility that the guy who doesn't understand you is a slow learner about relationships and may never catch up?

Maybe "guys" are naturally piggish in their personal lives, maybe they are resisting the work it takes to grow up and act like an adult. Sooner or later most men learn to enjoy order in their environments and personal cleanliness.